Two Extremes of Self-Esteem

Inferiority
Most of us tend to either under-estimate or over-estimate our value. We perceive ourselves as either useless failures or as God's gift to the world. How you perceive yourself greatly affects your relationships. Inferiority often stems from childhood where parents told us that we were dumb, ugly, or clumsy.

How do we overcome feelings of being inferior? Speak truth to your heart. What is the truth? You are made in the image of God. You have a mind, emotions, and the ability to make decisions. You are gifted by God with special abilities. You have a unique role to play in his kingdom. No one else can take your place. Tell yourself the truth and behave accordingly. Then, watch your relationships flourish.

Superiority
Feelings of superiority often lead to broken relationships. It all began in childhood. Few rules were enforced. The child grew up feeling the world owed him a living. He became demanding and impatient with others. As an adult he is domineering and self-righteous. If there are problems in the relationship, he blames the other person.

The first step to recovery for the "I am superior" personality, is to admit that you are human. No one is perfect, so stop playing games. Step down from your pedestal and join the rest of us. You don't have to be perfect to be important. People will respect you more if you will admit your weaknesses. In fact, you will find that confession is the road to good relationships.


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