Why the Love Languages Matter

I believe that our deepest emotional need is the need to feel loved. If we are married, the person we would most like to love us is our spouse. If we feel loved by our spouse, the whole world is bright and life is wonderful. On the other hand, if we feel rejected or ignored, the world begins to look dark.

Most couples get married when they still have the euphoric feelings of being in love. When the euphoric feelings evaporate some time after the wedding and their differences begin to emerge, they often find themselves in conflict. With no positive plan for resolving conflicts, they often find themselves speaking harshly to each other. Harsh words create feelings of hurt, disappointment, and anger. Not only do they feel unloved, but they also begin to resent each other.

When couples readThe 5 Love Languages, they discover why they lost the romantic feelings of courtship and how emotional love can be rekindled in their relationship. Once they begin speaking each other's primary love language, they are surprised to see how quickly their emotions turn positive. With a full love tank, they can now process their conflicts in a much more positive manner and find solutions that are workable.

The rebirth of emotional love creates a positive emotional climate between the two of them and they learn to work together as a team-encouraging, supporting, and helping each other reach meaningful goals. Once this happens, they want to share the message of the five love languages with all of their friends.

Every year since its first publication in 1992, the book has sold more than it did the year before. I believe the success of The 5 Love Languages can be simply attributed to the couples who have read it, learned to speak each other's language, and recommended it to their friends

Do you know your love language?

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