Many Christians have turned happiness into an idol. I’m not suggesting God is against us being happy. The Scriptures say, “Happy are the people whose God is the Lord.” So when does happiness become an idol? It happens when we exalt our concern to be happy above the very concerns of God himself. We live in a culture that says, “Above all else be happy; do what you want to do; satisfy yourself; look out for number one; do your own thing.” The Bible teaches that the husband should love his wife. We reason, No problem—as long as it doesn’t interfere with my golf game, my fishing time, or my hunting trip. Because I need that. After all, God wants me to be happy, right?
The bible teaches that wives should meet the sexual needs of their husbands. But what if the wife is not happy with her husband? Shouldn’t she reason, God wouldn’t ask me to do that, would He? Certainly, God wants me happy. That’s most important, right?
The point is, we willingly do “good” up to a point. We honor God, but only up to a point. We’ll obey Jesus, but only to a certain point. And what is that point? Our personal happiness. There is no other place, no other area that so dramatically demonstrates this problem among Christians than in the way they approach their wedding vows. I know this will sound harsh to many, but the truth is, our wedding vows aren’t really seen as vows anymore. A vow is a solemn promise, something that binds a person for life. Sadly, our marriage vows have been domesticated into pretty words spoken in a lovely ceremony, apparently more for substance. For many people, they mean absolutely nothing. Pretty words are easily discarded when things get ugly and life is no longer pretty.